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The Intertwined Bucket List

My family is totally amazing and often times crazy with their “do it or you should just go curl up and die” attitude.

When My Great Grandfather turned 90 we celebrated his life with a huge party. His health was not great and he was in a wheel chair. None of that stopped us from swinging him around the dance floor and I can still see the smile on his face from that day. But, what I remember most about my great grandparents is that they were so full of life. It has been about 10 years now since they have been gone and I still feel them impacting the way I do things.  The presence of their attitude has yet to leave me. Often I find myself smiling when I know I have done something the way one of them would have (it is kind of long running joke to be a little quirky like my great-grandfather).

The loss of such people in my large and extended families lives has really had a dramatic effect.  I hope one day that my children’s children’s children say such a thing about me.  It has members of my family exploring the planet, living out their passions, loving fully and of course marking things off that great and powerful “BUCKET LIST”.

FOR EXAMPLE

My 84-year-old great-uncle and ____ year old, gorgeous great-aunt (shhh, it is never polite to speak of a woman’s age). Have done more in these last few years than I have in my entire life and they are not stopping. Retirement is usually known for its lazy days, retirement homes with shuffleboard games, and dwindling pensions/social security to fund it all with. Not for my relatives! Instead of sitting back they decide to do a 5K run.Shoe print

It is not just that they have decided to do it that is so very inspiring.   (learn more about the 5K run here)

These two people have managed to put a bee in everyone’s bonnet (love that saying). This seemingly harmless 5k run has turned into a family event. It has motivated those of us that have forgotten to push ourselves into joining in on the excitement. The pride of supporting others, the strength of enduring and overcoming, the sheer adrenaline for encouraging others,  among other things has all started to snowball in this family. Plans are in the works to join in, little did I know placing a “fulfill bucket list” was going to be placed at the top of my own personal Bucket List.

It all just make me realize that we are all so intertwined. One persons life fishes in and out of yours creating a web that makes you stronger. A give and take relationship if you will, that fuses you together and what you are left with is nothing short of amazing. I know I am so lucky to have the people in my life that constantly re-enforce such behaviors of love, care, devotion, compassion, understanding, support, nurturing, growth, learning, and just overall living a good life.

I am so proud of my family for doing what they do. Family is the tendrils that start us growing into who we become. I know not all family is traditional. Mom, dad, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, whatever kind of people who establish those beginnings. As a parent I think about all of this so often. The kind of mom I am and what my background does for me or my children. People like my Great Aunt and Uncle remind me how I need to focus my energy into doing even those things I only think about.  How about you?

Have you positively helped build someone else’s web today? Have you thought about your Bucket List (I have 2, more on that another day) and what you could accomplish in your lifetime?

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When life gives you lemons, turn them into apples and…

Make yummy sweet alchoholic drinks!!!!

Seriously, life has a way of twisting and turning in the most unexpected ways.  This last week I have been up and down, running from one end of town to another and signing my name on documents more times that I can count. So much of my energy has been take up with things that need to get done that there are times when I had to stop and remind myself to just breath. This week I decided also to get myself organized. Not to have any more pity parties (remember I have just recently become a single mother) and to just get stuff done.

I always felt that this kind of thinking was the very stuff that made me feel accomplished and over all just good. I got myself a binder some plastic protective sleeves, some notecards, some deviders, paper and some halfway decent pens. I was supper excited to put my family together an organizer so that we can keep a colective tally on our lives. I so hate kaos but, with 5 kids it seems unavoidable. I was attempting to make things a little less kaotic. Did you know that there are like a million pins on pentrest that are all about keeping organation binders for your family? I did not, for about 5 seconds I thought I was being original, HA HA HA. There are print offs on budgeting, meal planning, kids activities for rainy days, vacination schedules, date nights, calendars, and on and on and on. I was floored. What a very marvolous thing, of course this isn’t a new idea, duh. There have been moms out there trying to keep things to a dull roar in their homes for centuries. Maybe not in a binder per say but,  looking back in history you see some amazingly organized women that accomplish so much and a lot of them with very little.  The whole thing has me extremely proud of my gender! Yes, I know men too can be organized.  I have just not really ran in the same circles as any of them.

One of the things I want to do with my organizer is to print off recipes for things that I have made and loved! Things that I may not make except around holidays and such. For example: I ran accross a recipe for an Apple Pie Sangria: posted by “The Cookie Rookie” that I have just got to try. Just from the ingredients I know this it going to be a favorite. I very much have enjoyed this blog post not only for the yummy ADULT beverage that she posted but, the dog in the photos is hilarious. Let me know if you got the sence that the dog was the true main star of some of the photos.

I am NOT going to show you photos of my binder. It is totally sad in comparison to what people have been able to create, some much so It might as well be called an art form. I will however show you a picture of of an Apple Pie Sangria. 🙂

pie Does that not look delish to you?

Pilates workout

Pilates is one of those amazing workouts that once you start you feel the results the very next day. It is great no matter what you weigh, be it small, tall, old or young. Each excersize can be modified if you have pains or like me a hurt foot. You can do it for a few minutes or as long as you want, you can stop and start there is no need to keep it up for a certain period of time.

The goal of Pilates is not to get your heart rate up and to make you sweat. It is to engage as many muscles in your body at one time. It will make you work, but with such low repetitions you don’t feel over worked. Muscles you never even knew weren’t being flexed get flexed. I can attest to what amazing things happen when you can control the muscles in your body. Lets just say all men and women should do Pilates because when it comes to the bedroom you really notice. Pilates is my all-time favorite workout, I always feel good doing it_______HOLD IT, STOP_____side note here:

I have not always found it a good feeling to see my body so up close and personal But that had nothing to do with the workout but my own self image. Coming to love one’s self is not easy. I think a lot of people suffer from not being able to love themselves when they take a real truthful look in the mirror. We grow up and there are things (such as having babies, age, weight, life in general) that permanently mars that youthful skin. Someone once talked openly about how they never would allow photos to be taken of themselves because they hated how they looked. She never wanted a reminder of it and feared people would see her the way she say herself. It was the saddest article I had ever read. I sobbed for her pain and realized it was because I have been there and still struggle to not be there. Things can’t change until we change them. Things won’t be accepted unless we accept them. I really think the AA has it right with their mantra of: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Post it on a wall, write it on a mirror, live it, teach it! 

mirror face 

People often put off working out because it is too hard. Going to the gym takes time and money. Those info commercials for the ultimate device that will sculpt the perfect body for you are a joke. Running and all those fat burning workouts are a one timer for so many Because in the end they leave feeling wore out and disappointed at the sheer amount of work it took. Not to mention how they feel the next day. NO THANKS! If you’re not already fit those workouts are just torturer. Pilates works on strengthening muscles all over your body to allow you to do things. Example: I tore a muscle by simply stretching and coughing at the same time when I was pregnant with Pratus. I was terrified I’d end up not being able to go into labor because of the pain. My body was tired, stretched to the limits, the muscles were not toned and struggled to hold all the pressure that was placed on them.

Pilates invented by Joseph Pilates works on building up your core muscles as its main objective. I know for me that once I feel strong on the inside I feel strong everywhere. I am working with a few every inexpensive things in own space with nothing more than a camping mat (it’s what I had on hand). 1) A book; the Pilates Body By Brooke Siler (got mine at a second-hand sale for $0.50)  2) Youtube video; Pilates 30 Minutes Exercises Full Workout Doing at Home!

The very first piece of Pilates I learned.

TheHundredhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cO4vb678un8